Counselling is an active process; I actively listen to you and involve myself in your experiences. We gain understanding of your concerns and work through them together. There may be challenges to face and perhaps some long drawn out silences – but something is always happening. There are moments of deep connection, and I feel, to be trusted enough to witness another persons soul, pain and vulnerability – and to ‘metaphorically’ hand in hand survey and explore, find perspective and a safe way through to a place of understanding, acceptance and empowerment; truly is a great privilege. I look forward to working with you.
Counselling changes lives – get in touch and let’s change yours together.:
Who I am
I provide short-term and long-term counselling and psychotherapy and work from the New Forest and central London. I am originally from the United States and relocated when I was 18 years old after the loss of my immediate family. I have always looked at adversity and challenges as opportunities for growth, and as part of life’s lessons. Having had a number of challenges and obstacles in my life, such as searching for purpose and meaning, dealing with early neglect and trauma, discrimination, isolation and illness, I have had to conquer an unusual array of challenges. This takes time, determination, various resources and support, self-belief, creativity, and a helpful guide to navigate through life’s often muddy waters.
What is counselling?
Counselling is a unique time to engage in a process which can cultivate clarity, and help to unravel life’s crises. For example, being separated from those we love and care about – whether through divorce or bereavement – can trigger a cycle of depression, anxiety, wrong decisions, substance abuse, vulnerability and years of indecisiveness and negative spirals. The therapeutic process cultivates awareness and insight and nurtures real change.
Therapy is an opportunity to identify areas where we feel blocked, over-whelmed and unable to make sense of life. Often in therapy various tools are utilised such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), the forgiveness model, mindfulness, and psychodynamic theory, but every person’s life situation is unique.
The counselling relationship is a partnership to carry out an honest and internal investigation in a gentle, compassionate and non-judgemental way. It is an opportunity to be fully present with who we are, to understand how our minds and relationships work and function.
My training and experience
I began my career volunteering for Victim Support in London for ten years, supporting victims of crimes who struggled to make sense of their experience and needed to learn how to reintegrate their lives out of oppression and violence. Then worked in the NHS Bereavement service, having previously trained at Roehampton University in integrative counselling and psychotherapy. I then undertook 3 years of volunteer service at Sutton Counselling working with depression, using the psychodynamic model which deals with understanding how early childhood conditions affect our ability to ability to function (or not) and live more fully productive lives.
I have full memberships of the BACP and have obtained the graduate basis for registration with the British psychological society.
I have trained in mindfulness with Breathworks and at the Oxford Mindfulness Centre, and I worked with students at Brighton University and Birkbeck college, in teaching mindfulness as ‘tools for life’ and wellbeing. I am the one of the first people in the UK to use the forgiveness model in counselling; and run annual forgiveness retreats in London and on the south coast. The forgiveness model, which had been validated by the American Psychological Society is another tool and approach to with traumas, such as sexual abuse, neglect, identity, sexuality, separation and substance abuse.
In addition I provide training to therapists in working with ‘diversity and inclusion’, and have established a not-for-profit organisation to establish mindfulness in communities working with people of colour and difference. I support and work with Baatn (Black, African & Asian Therapists’ Network). Indeed I feel that mindfulness can be of great benefit in working with a range of mental illness.
How I work
There is no minimal time set for counselling; the amount of sessions are normally discussed early in the sessions, but this normally depends are your specific situation. I am also flexible with fee’s if a person is able to demonstrate need and commitment to this process. I have a purpose build room for counselling on my grounds, and usually like to work with a fix but flexible time. At times I will be making some interventions to facilitate your learning about my model and orient your self.
Training, qualifications & experience
MA Birkbeck College. University of London.
BA (Hons) in Psychology. Richmond American International University, London.
Post Graduate Certificate in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy, Regent’s College, London.
Post Graduate Diploma in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy, University of Surrey.
Breathworks : Mindfulness teacher (2015-2016).
Oxford Mindfulness Centre summer school 2016.
MBACP (full accredited membership of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)
UKRCP (United Kingdom Register of Certified Practitioners)
APA (American Psychological Association – International affiliate)
BPS (British Psychological Society) Graduate member
I have worked both within the NHS and privately. I am also the founder of the Meditation Circle (www.meditationcircle.co.uk), which is a non-profit organisation.
Continuing further development with Breathworks and the Oxford Mindfulness Centre.
Registered / Accredited
Accredited register membership